Max will be out of the country from Feb 18th – Feb 28th.

Max Rivers, This Marriage Mediator

Max Rivers has a unique ability to adapt Marshall Rosenberg’s NVC™ to different needs.

Teamwork Mediation

Max has developed a six-session (maximum) process for teaching couples how to self-mediate their own relationships using his unique Embodied-NVC (Non-Violent Communication) designed specifically for use in intimate relationships.

You are encouraged to buy his book (below) and read the first 3 chapters before your first session, which is guaranteed – if either of you feel there was no value to the session, there is no charge. If you decide to proceed after the first session, we’ll negotiate a fee (based on our sliding scale as a starting place) that is agreeable to all three of us; and I’ll have an idea of about how many sessions I expect it to take (up to a maximum of six).

Schedule Appointment

You can make your own appointment at TheMarriageMediator.net as well as watch videos of clients discussing their experience with the Teamwork Mediation Method.

We’ll help you resolve your presenting challenges, teach you E-NVC skills, as well as give you a deep understanding of what is motivating you and your partner so that you can maintain your own relationships.

Click here to learn more.

The Teamwork Method Training Program

If you are interested in using the Teamwork Method in your mediation, coaching or counseling practice (or just to deepen your use of the method in your life) Max is now offering the Teamwork Method Training Program (TMT).

For more information about the training, videos and an interactive blog, as well as an application form, click here.

Non-Standard Relationship Mediations

Max has developed a nation-wide practice of helping LBGTX relationships, couples opening up their marriages and polyamorous relationships to learn the skills they need to mediate their own relationships under the guidance of and experienced practitioner.

We’ll help you resolve your presenting challenges, support your relationship choices, and teach you E-NVC skills so that you can maintain your own relationships.

Click here to learn more.

I’m really looking forward to your book; I heard your talk on KPFA & have been checking out your videos.  I want to have super pleasurable relationships.

Thanks for your incisive, powerful work!

Max’s Book: “Loving Conflict” is available in:

Paperback and Kindle Versions

You can purchase “Loving Conflict” on http://Amazon.com Prime

  • Paperback for $24.95

  • Kindle for $9.98

Audio Book

You can purchase half-hour readings with commentary by Max at our own Audio_Book_Store

  • Individually for $2.99

  • By the Chapter (2 or 3 half-hour readings) for $4.99

  • By the Section (4 chapters) for $11.99

  • Buy the whole book on a memory stick for $15.00.

Hypnosis Recordings

You can purchase pre-recorded healing hypnosis trance recordings at our Hypnosis Recordings Store 

There are trances for:

  • Weight Loss

  • Quit Smoking

  • Sleep, Rest and Sleep Apnea

Each recording is $15.00 and will be emailed to you as an MP3 file with instructions.

PDF and eBook

You can also purchase “Loving Conflict” in two other eBook formats:

(can be read in non-Kindle ebook readers like the nook or ebook plug-ins or apps).

I’m enjoying, even savoring your book.  I read, ponder, digest, integrate and re-read… It’s a masterpiece!


We find your writing to be extremely original, insightful and useful.  It has been very valuable for us already… great appreciation I have for this amazing piece of work.


After Doing Marriage Mediation

Thank you! I love how articulate you are, I could understand your way of speaking more than most books I ve read!

NVC Student

This is a must read for anyone in relationship 


— be it romantic (marriage, dating), friendship or even professional relationship such as the workplace. The information and skills in this book have the potential to change your life — and certainly improve your relationship. Learn how to deconstruct what’s really going on in your interactions — in order to make changes that address underlying issues that fuel your arguments. The skills in this book are simple, but not easy. It’s a book to read, re-read, and practice with. The author is available to guide readers through some of the most challenging parts of this work.
Professional Mediator

Teamwork Marriage Mediation

To schedule an appointment or see videos about Teamwork Marriage Mediation, click here.

NVC & Poly

For information about using NVC with Poly Relationships click here.

NVC and New Culture

For info about the Network for a New Culture, click here.

I just want to thank you again for the NVC classes that I took back in 2009 … I feel like it has completely changed MY LIFE in a good way!


I keep meaning to thank you. 2010 was really a good year for me after those classes … it’s so much easier to connect with people, easier to resolve my own internal conflicts, and my friends comment on how calm and empathetic I am in a crisis and they seem to rely on me more often for someone to talk to. To be honest I haven’t been consciously “trying to use NVC” … it just affected my perspective in a very good and peaceful way.



re NVC Classes

What initially drew me to it, I heard from my friend that it was present-focused and not a long-term therapeutic model. It’s turned out to be tools to handle things within the relationship


It’s been especially helpful considering our situation which is having new baby and so not a lot of time to devote to it right now. We wanted practical tools to help with us with the snags we get into repetitively. It’s definitely given us some tools.I like that it’s been pretty pointed and talking about actual conflicts that we had. I was wondering how working with actual conflicts would go. In fact, you highlighted these themes by just hearing what we were going through. I feel more compassionate towards him when I’m looking at it from that framework of what are his hidden need, and being interested in those getting met. Because it puts me more on the same team with him, And it feels like it something is doable.Sometimes it can be overwhelming people thinking about ongoing therapy, that they’re not ready for it, or it’s too much of a time commitment or their partner is resistant. All the reasons that we resist that but as a self-care practice and something that short-term to start out to give you real tools that you can you can use ongoing. It was the reluctant partner actually that was the driving force for finding this type model because it seem like something he would be open to. This was more in the moment and less going for all the baggage from the past and related what’s was up right now. So I think it’s been good for that. Right now, this is a good model for us. I’d definitely recommend it.
Mom with New Baby

After Doing Marriage Mediation

After Couple's First Skype Session

Thanks for thinking of me!  I have been reflecting on your wisdom! I wish all kids had NVC in their education so we could all grow up to be wise and reflective, and sensitive to everyone we encounter! Thanks for your session. I will be scheduling our next session soon.

I came back over and over again throughout the years. The one thing I want to do is go to Max’s NVC classes so much so that I was riding my bike 26 miles one-way. 

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Its been absolutely exciting for me. I hang on every word of every lesson. I’m here early and stay late. It’s given me so much insight into how to be a better person by learning these tools
Repeat NVC Student

You may not remember me, but I’m a huge fan. I “teach” NVC to everyone I meet, especially my daughter, who has adopted it as her own now. And one hypnosis session with you changed my life.


Max in particular deepens the material, He added new fresh insights that build on Marshall’s existing work.


He was able to bring it to life for me in a way that reading the book couldn’t ever do.

I think he’s an extraordinary teacher. I even hesitate to say that, he’s also a model himself, helping us to feel the way it would feel to live with this kind of life perspective on daily basis.

To me it’s been an extraordinary experience. I think everybody from all walks of life in all situations could benefit greatly from taking from taking a course like this.

NVC Student and Mediation Client

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Max and Elise Rivers

Max and Elise Rivers

Creators of E-NVC

Max and Elise Rivers. Pioneers in a completely new form of mediation with over 10 years experience helping couples learn the skills necessary to make any marriage work. But we do more than just mediate your conflicts, we teach you how to resolve your own conflicts.